Loss comes in many different forms; and no matter how many times we’re faced with it, it rarely gets easier.
The death of a loved one leaves so many questions behind; it’s so hard to grasp that someone can be here one moment and gone the next. Suddenly, conversations are set in the past tense instead of the present. Pictures mean more than they once did, because they now serve as windows to better times. Your mind plays tricks on you, and you see the person’s face everywhere you turn.
My uncle was very sick, and his life was far from easy. Despite everything that he went through, I can’t remember ever hearing a complaint from him. When I think about that, it makes me hesitant to complain about my own problems. I have great memories with my uncle; rollerblading around the park, spending hours in book stores, and all of his jokes that I didn’t always understand. Over the years, I watched him suffer, and saw first hand as illness took over his life. Those are not the memories I want to focus on when looking back. Instead, I want to remember his laughter, which was so contagious, and his smile that lit up the room. As hard as it is, I try to remind myself that he is no longer suffering; death is only painful for those left behind.
I’ve lost so many wonderful people over the years, and each time presents a different experience.
Death is not the only thing that steals people from us. Sometimes, you can be standing next to someone and still feel like you’ve lost them. You remember a time when things were easier, and wish you could go back to that. Mistakes are made, anger takes over, and words are said that were never meant to be uttered. At times it feels like you can never go back to how things were, and maybe we can’t, but that doesn’t mean that what lies ahead won’t be just as wonderful. The world can try to rip things apart, but what’s meant to be will triumph over all of those obstacles. This is where faith kicks in; because without the hope that things will work out, we would have nothing to look forward to.
Loss makes us realize what we have, and teaches us to hold on tightly while we still can.